Perseverance

Well a lot has happened since I last posted.  I still don’t have a diagnosis.  I was admitted to the hospital after I emailed the disease expert a photo of my knees.  I woke up one morning and they were both red and swollen looking- hot to the touch.  For several days after, they felt like the knees of a 90 year old- burning and achy.  That’s never happened before and I was worried that it meant I was about to flare up and potentially have another attack.

So the disease expert said to go to the hospital.  He was traveling but said his fellows would admit me, which they did.  I was there for 3 days while tons of doctors came into my room, asking me all sorts of questions.  And not once listening to my entire medical story.  I got poked and prodded and asked, “Can you feel this?  Is this sore?  Can you open your mouth and pull down your bottom lip?”  It was weird.

One doctor came into my room alone and I finally asked, “Can we talk off the record?”  He nodded yes.  I threw out my best guesses regarding what this could be, and he said, “It’s pointing in that direction.  But you need to be patient.”  Then they discharged me.

To be honest, all my labs look pretty good (heck they should.  I’ve always taken such great care of myself).  My ANA which indicates an auto-immune disease came back at 40 on the dot.  Usually if you have an AI disease, your numbers will be much higher.  Mine is the lowest score you can have to even test positive.

Other than that, the hospital hasn’t found much. They gave me a referral to a neurologist and she’s the big kahuna in the field of neuro diseases. In terms of a referral, you can’t be seen by anyone more experienced than her.  So we wait.  She can’t fit me in until the end of September. But I phone each day asking if there has been any cancellations.  My discharge orders said to be seen within 1-2 weeks.  So this isn’t ideal.  I need to see her sooner.

I reached out to another doctor and he ordered a bunch of brain MRI’s last Friday. I spent 1.5 hours laying in the tightest tube ever.  It was an older model machine and they didn’t even have headsets (just ear plugs).  At the last minute, that doctor ordered tons of extra views: specific nerves, optic nerves, brain stem and the entire brain itself.  I’m glad he did it, but it was really hard to be in that machine for so long.

My newest symptom is my heartbeat.  It’s racing for no reason and waking me up in the middle of the night.  So I saw my primary doctor yesterday (and btw-she blows as a doctor and this is completely above her pay scale-I need a better GP).  Anyways, I am now wearing a high tech heart monitoring device and she’s ordered another MRI, this time of my spine.

I’m hoping all of these tests will provide all the clues that the neurologist needs in order to make her diagnosis.  But I have a feeling, there will be more tests which she orders.

I’ve lost a shitload of weight.  All my shorts and jeans are baggy on me.  I bought a new pair of jeans and shorts as an interim measure.  I don’t like being this thin and want my more fit looking body back.  But the scary thing is, I fit into skinny leg 26″ jeans and a size 0 short.  I’m pretty certain I’ve never this thin.  And that scares me because if I endure another attack, I can’t see my body doing well by losing another 15 lbs.  I’m pushing food into me all day long but it’s like my body keeps losing weight.  It’s as if whatever disease this is affects your metabolic rate.

Please continue to keep me in your prayers.  It’s been the hardest two months of my life.

Life

When you are facing so many unknowns with your health, you’re no longer living but rather, just existing day by day.  That’s pretty much me in a nutshell right now.  I finally had it out with my primary care physician and spoke to her on the phone for over 35 minutes yesterday.  It was painfully obvious, that she had little to offer in the realm of medical advice.  I knew more than she did and had asked for a simple test to be run, to rule out celiac disease which accompanies this auto-immune disease that I suspect I have.  It took me educating her on my symptoms and what they implicate, and how I need to rule this out too.  It may not help us in our quest to get a diagnose on the auto-immune disease, but it may shed some answers either way.

The ANA and Rheumatoid Arthritis panel, CBC etc came back negative or within normal ranges.  But that doesn’t mean anything.  People go decades before they show as ANA positive.  I suspect I am seronegative hence my results.

I initially thought this might be MS, but was hold by a few doctors that I would present clinically different.  So I dropped that as a real possibility.  However, something did come back as abnormal.  It was my uric acid.  According to how this lab performs the test, a reading of 3.1 or above is considered normal.  Mine was 2.6 which means I am low in uric acid.  This is not as common as being high in uric acid (which eventually leads to gout).  When reading up on ways to increase my uric acid, I found that patients with MS show low uric acid during periods where their MS flares up.

Now in and of itself, low uric acid doesn’t point to much.  But I suspect that my auto-immune disease also shares this clinical symptom.  I know what I felt.  And I know what I was going through for six solid days.  My body was being the attacked and I felt something destroying my myelin or whatever is part of my central nervous system.  I would hear an incredibly loud noise in my ears- like that low deep sound you hear when the TV goes blank and an emergency broadcast system message appears on your screen.  Once that started, I would then feel heat in a certain part of my body.  This attack it was all centered around my right eye.  And that’s the eye that my optometrist found a vision issue which can’t be corrected.  He’s fixed my prescription and out of the blue, I suddenly have a misshapened cornea, whereas my entire life, it’s been normal.  I now have to wear weighted contacts that fit precisely on my cornea.  Normal contacts move slightly when you blink.  But I won’t be able to see out of that kind, which might explain the fuzzy vision.

Since I suspect this is an auto-immune disease, I have gone nearly vegan (I will eat salmon, tuna or other wild caught fish).  I also have cut out all wheat, gluten and nightshade plants.  I’m not going to lie.  I’m going to miss visiting the top restaurants in LA for our weekly date nights.  I can’t take the risk that some cook uses corn oil instead of avocado.  I can’t put anything into my body that promotes inflammation.  I had no idea just how inflammatory dairy, meat, corn, oils etc were to someone suffering through an auto-immune disease.

The good news is, I contacted an expert in this auto-immune disease.  He is based in Los Angeles, wrote a book about the disease and even sits on the board of directors for the foundation that educates the public about it.  If anyone can figure this out, it’s him.  And- he’s agreed to take me on as his patient.  I see him at the end of this month.  Considering who he is and that other recommend rheumatologist said they couldn’t even see me till November, this was a huge blessing.

On an emotional level, I burst into tears last night, worried that I am still so young.  I went 3 years between attacks.  And I can’t help but wonder- Can I endure 3 attacks every decade?  Will neurological damage occur at some point?  Should I start recording messages to my children and leave them in an email account, so that they remember their mother…the one not affected yet by this disease?

Yeah that last one…that’s the one that made me bawl.

It’s just so hard.  So hard to fight when you aren’t even sure what you are fighting exactly.  Just weeks ago, I was running 25 miles a week.  Today, I can barely walk 2 miles.  I’m a fraction of myself.  I’ve lost 6 lbs in a week and I’m trying my best to focus on not losing anymore.  I haven’t been this thin since high school.  And it’s not a good thin.  It’s a sickly thin.  I can see it when I look at myself in the mirror.  I see more of my jaw and skeleton features coming through.  I see it in my eyes.  I’m not the same woman I was before our trip.

Even one of the regular checkers at Whole Foods pulled me aside and asked me, “Are you ok?  You don’t look well.”  And one of the other guys said just yesterday, “How are you doing?”  I replied, “I’m doing somewhat ok today.  Not as good as two days ago.  I feel very weak and have a lot of fatigue.”  We started discussing auto-immune diseases and he said, “It’s crazy how fast this all happened.  Once second, you’re this healthy runner.  And the next second, it’s serious.”  I said, “I know.  That’s exactly how it feels to me too.  I lost 6 lbs in a week.  I already saw I was going through muscle wasting.  It’s incredibly frightening just how quick your body can go.”

And frankly my friends, I don’t know how far my body would truly last if I endured a sustained attack again.  Everyone likes to think they are invincible.  I know I surely did.  Just weeks ago, I was posting push-up videos on my FB feed every day, cranking them out.  I felt he strongest I ever have.  Whatever this is, annialated me- and quick.

I know I have to push through.  That I have to regain everything I have lost.  And train hard to get my body in peak performance.  But I can’t.  Not yet.  The fatigue is still too great.

But I am fighting.  Know that much.  2CH is definitely a fighter and I’m going to learn everything there is to know about T cells and lymphocytes and cranial nerve damage and what my body needs to repair the damage caused from these attacks.

If if you get a chance, watch the Ted Talk from Dr. Wahl.  She cured herself from MS. It has to do with diet and your mitochondria.  And it’s fascinating stuff.

So that’s the latest my friends. Please continue to pray.   I need it….Lots

 

xx

 

History

Before I ever entered into an affair, I was that mom that never did anything for herself.  That parenting style had massive consequences for me.  And in more ways than you could ever imagine.

When Zane was still an infant, I started to experience pins and needles in my feet and hands.  It drove me nuts and they were constantly buzzing.  The sensations moved around on my body and originally I suspected perhaps my back was out.  Maybe a major nerve was pinched and that’s why I was experiencing these symptoms.  So I saw my chiropractor several times, with no improvement.

I started experiencing intense heat along the right side of my face.  It felt as if the nerve there was going off and it felt literally as if my face was burning.  I would lay in bed, breastfeeding my son, with an ice pack over my face.  That’s how horrible it felt.  I created a post on Facebook, pretty much in a panic, asking friends if they knew what this could be.  Some thought it would be peripheral neuropathy.  Others thought it involved the trigeminal nerve that was exactly where my symptoms were.

My husband took me to the ER and that day, the attending physician suspected MS.  I fit the classic profile, age and my symptoms warranted further investigation.  So they performed a brain scan and I braced myself for bad news.  When the doctor arrived back, he said it was clear/inconclusive.  We breathed a sigh of relief.  They never scanned my spine or did a lumbar punch.

I was sent home with instructions to follow up with a neurologist.  But the office couldn’t get me in for another 3 days.  My symptoms were horrendous and I felt like I was on fire.  They prescribed gabapentin at the ER, but I refused to take them as it passes through into the breastmilk.  Which meant, I would have to stop feeding my child-who by the way, couldn’t feed from a bottle.  So I held on, as the pain became unbearable.  My husband just stood stoically by, unable and unsure of exactly what was happening to me.  A few hours later, in the middle of the night, I went into Zane’s room and breastfeed him for the last time, through a mountain of unrelenting tears.  I told him how sorry I was.  That I tried my best.  But mommie needed to take that medicine now.  I held on for as long as I could.  That’s how bad the pain was.

As the entire house slept, I finally took my first dose and waited.  The pain and fire on my face wouldn’t stop.  I thought I was literally going to die.  By 3 a.m., I finally woke my husband and told him he had to take me back to the hospital.  My mom came over to watch the kids and away we went.

My heart was racing, that much I know.  And the hospital was overfilled on what was a full moon night.  They ran more blood and thought maybe I had a tumor on my kidney, which caused the pins and needles to be constant due to some enzyme or something being excreted.  But when tests came back clear, they gave me a massive dose of something to calm me down.  I don’t know what it was.  But one second, I was in the worst pain of my life and the next?  I was hallucinating about a little boy wearing a graduation hat running around my hospital room.  And then, a green leprechaun came dancing through my hospital room next.  There use to be a time when we paid money to experience stuff like this….but those times were long over and the nurse likely gave me an overdose.  I was discharged immediately once I started talking about the leprechauns.  Pretty sure, they didn’t want a lawsuit for what they had just done to me.

I was foggy for the next day and I think within 48 hours, my symptoms were through the roof.  At that point, I didn’t trust our local hospital.  Neither did my family and we all agreed, we were heading up to Los Angeles to been seen at the best hospital.  I would not allow them to discharge me, until they figured this thing out.  They ran so much bloodwork looking for mineral deficiencies, Lyme disease, auto-immune diseases etc.  I saw a neurologist and all they could find was an unusually high heartbeat- tachycardia.  They pretty much came to the conclusion that all of my symptoms were caused from stress.   But they wanted to send me home with beta-blockers due to the heartbeat findings.

When I came home, being my usual stubborn self, I said, “Fuck that” and “If stress caused all these symptoms, then I need to remove the stress.  Not add a pill.”  So I started the process of transforming my life, one walk at a time.  One run at a time.

Now I still had all of the symptoms, and I wasn’t entirely convinced that stress caused this (because I am a stubborn super woman kind of wife/mother) so I turned to eastern medicine and found the best rated acupuncturist.  I explained everything and her first words were, “Don’t worry.  I can fix this.  I see plenty of patients in my office after having their second child.  Their bodies are maxed out.  Completely out of tune.  But this will get better.  I promise.”

Now I have no idea how it even works, but once those needles were put under my skin, I would start to feel an electrical current flowing from one to the next.  It kinda freaked me out at first.  But I would soon come to enjoy that sensation.  At first, I saw her twice a week.  Then we switched to one a week.  Then a few weeks lapse at the end.    It took 11 treatments but I finally got to the point where my symptoms were either gone 100% or they were so minor, it made no use to go back.  I had noticed sometimes that acupuncture increased my symptoms in certain areas after those spots weren’t buzzing anymore.  So it was a calculated decision on when to stop.  The total time frame lasted two months.

Why does all this history matter?  Well for one, I’ve never told you guys.  And two-I don’t even tell my friends all of this.  And three- I really need to write about what is going on in real time.  Because friends-I’m not good at all.

Before anyone suggests I am some type of hypochondriac, let me assure you-I’m not.  I’m probably the most even keeled person regarding medical stuff you will ever know. Fall down?  Oh you are fine, dust yourself off.  Feel tired?  Ah, let’s go to bed early tonight.  Other than seeing my OB yearly and doing a mammogram, I pretty much stay far away from doctors.

So with all that said, let me share that I have had many weird symptoms over the past month now.  First was the return of sporadic and very mild pins and needles in my foot.  Second, I felt a strange electric/heat sensation running up under my right eyelid, which was eerily all too familiar to what I had gone through three years ago.

I have had non-stop extreme vertigo and dizziness.  Spatially, my brain is sending me signals that surfaces have a higher pitch than I know they do.  These symptoms can be explained due to my inflamed Eustacian tube and subsequent retracted ear drum.  I get that and took a course of prednisone to reduce the inflammation.  According to my ENT, my inner ear looks great as of today-but my symptoms remain.

So I can honestly say, if those were my only symptoms- the pins/needles are caused from stress and the vertigo/dizziness was caused from the inner ear issue.

But I’m also experiencing epic migraines.  I’ve had four now since the optical one I had before our trip.  My vision has changed overnight.  I feel as if my brain isn’t getting the right signal to my eyes.  It feels as if my eyes aren’t working together.  And if anything moves past me quickly, my vision doesn’t react correctly.  When I talk to people, I struggle comprehending exactly what was said.  Cognitively, I feel fuzzy.  My head is buzzing and I have ringing in my ears.

Yesterday was the worst.  I felt as if my entire body was under intense inflammation.  Like every damn cell was inflamed.  I felt warm and yet, had no fever.  The only thing I could do was lay in a bathtub of ice cold water to relieve that symptom.  I had another heat wave/band and starburst visual disturbance coming from my right eye, when I awoke this morning.

I saw my ENT for a follow-up yesterday and went through every single symptom.  I finally said, “Look, I think I have MS and am experiencing a relapse.”  I told him all about three years ago and everything that happened then.  He really tried to impress upon me how important it was not to “go there”.  To stay positive.  He made it sound like just having migraines in of itself could cause all these neurological issues.  He said MS was so rare and the chances were so slim.  He did his best to convince me that it’s probably not that, just like all the doctors before him.  I nodded up and down, trying to soak in his positive outlook.  I am a big believer in mind over matter.  And I realize just how powerful the mind truly is.  Heck, you can convince people they committed crimes.  So logically, I know anyone can convince themselves of having any disease.

But I know my baseline.  I know just how strong I have been.  I’ve run 2,300 miles since radically transforming my life through fitness and I’m not a stressed out person.  I suspect my eye issue is optic neuritis which takes seeing an ophthalmologist to diagnose.  I have an appointment with one on Wednesday.  Thankfully, it’s my friend’s husband- so at least I should get a solid opinion on that part.

Today, I landed back at my ENT to perform a test called a VNG.  It’s a series of tests to see if a balance/vertigo issue is related to your vestibular system.  That can only get impacted two ways: disease or damage.  As in lesions from MS.

Well the results came back and my hearing is great.  But my eyes aren’t tracking objects correctly.  Which means…something in the brain.

I’m trying really hard not to “go there” so believe it or not, besides googling what VNG is for a friend, I’m staying away from the internet (except to post here).  I don’t want to go down that rabbit hole of what-ifs.  But I’m scared.  Really scared.

My ENT ordered a rush brain scan so I had that done this evening.  Results should be here tomorrow.

My inner gut says I am experiencing my first relapse of MS symptoms.  The ENT said it could also be some rare benign tumor on the auditory nerve (think that’s what she said).  Trying to stay positive but my head feels so off.  My vision is not right.  I walk holding onto walls or my children.  And anything with motion causes my brain to not process it.  I’m a fraction of myself and I just want answers.

And a good cry.

And a bottle of wine once this is all done (anyone care to share it with me?)

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…and friends–this afternoon I got a call saying my father passed away last night.

I need prayers.  Lots.  In every language around the globe.  It’s been that hard of a day.

 

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Empathy

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My good friend Madeline over at https://madelineharper09.com  blogged about the ending of her affair. For those of you who follow my blog, I haven’t even begun to write much about mine but suffice to say, our stories have overlapped since the beginning. She has since moved on but it was difficult for me to read along, as I’ve been there. I empathized with her pain, as well as knew first hand the pain of being a betrayed spouse. I also understood her affair partners reluctance to engage in the relationship any further. Juggling two relationships takes more work than anyone realizes (take my word). It taxes the mental file boxes so to speak.

Grief. Confusion. Pain. Sorrow. Love. Fear.

So many emotions pulse through your veins when facing the end of an affair. I haven’t divulged about my affair, but I wanted to share an actual email which I sent to CEO at the end. It mirrors so much of Madeline’s pain. Our lovers may be different, but I get where Madeline was at. I understand how it feels breathing through a vice-grip day in and day out, all while trying to function for your children. As humans we strive for knowledge, to make sense of our world and the relationships within and around it. At least we should.

Esther Perel once said, “Depending on the circumstances, anyone is capable of anything. This is a crucial piece of knowledge to hold, if there is true intention, to engage empathically with our fellow human beings. It is easy to cast off those that perpetrate or endure horrific things, as being unlike us or different in some way. And my worry is if we operate from that standpoint, we will always be operating from a place of disconnection and isolation. Empathy entails putting yourself in the shoes of another. It is important that we all challenge ourselves to cultivate this ability, because given the right circumstances or right conditions, we are all capable of anything.

The importance of struggle and pain is crucial to the development of character. The process of recovery is transformational. There is a great cost to the character of human beings if things are achieved too easily.”

As I followed Madeline’s journey, I couldn’t help but sincerely wish that her pain transformed her, just as the pain I caused transformed me. You should realize, I am in a different place than when I wrote this letter. But make no mistake, I sat in the crosshairs of gut-wrenching pain and my consequences for a long, long time. I struggled immensely, yet grew out of those ashes into a better person–a better wife–a better friend and better mother to those around me.

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I came to the beach and ran all the way to the end. I wanted to feel close to you. To see your face amongst the crowds. Maybe even bump into you going for a run (we never did race!!)

My mind pondered so many things, thinking how just 1 week ago you said “I want you.” And how on a dime, that suddenly changed. I still don’t get it.

I ask myself constantly “Did he ever truly care for me?” You said you weren’t the man I thought you were. What does that mean???

I think you did care for me but I am so confused. I reached for my tablet this morning, wanting to turn it on to see if you had written. But I had to stop myself as this habit is so ingrained in me, to include you in my day to day life.

Last night, I took Vivianne to the outdoor concert. I left my phone at home by accident. Normally, I would have sent you a message talking about date night or our plans for the weekend. And in that moment, I realised just how much your presence truly was in my life.

We may have started off as adventure seeking lovers but you became one of my closest friends over the past six months. And I adored that CEO.  Simply put, losing you and your friendship hurts me the most. I have felt your support and laughter through so many months now, seeking advice, sharing my thoughts, concerns, fantasies and more.

I grew….as a person…..by knowing you CEO. That is one compliment which I’ve never said to anyone. Read that sentence again, slower now. Because very few people have ever come into my life and impacted me in so many ways. You are one of them–having made such an impression on my heart.

I look for the number 1 to appear in my inbox all the time. Seeing a message from “CEO” pop up gave me companionship during the chaos and monotony of my days. I noticed your name says ceo (lowercase) now in my inbox. And I wonder what you changed in your settings. I wonder if this is another step forward to disconnecting what had been our connected lives. It makes me well up in tears and I fan my face trying to breathe through the pain.

I hear footsteps behind me as I sit here watching the waves. And I wish they were yours so that I could tell you just how much I will miss you in my life. Waves of grief wash over me as if I have lost an arm or something. It hurts that much.

As I ran here today, I saw a vision of me working late at night putting together a business plan. The next picture was me at a table negotiating with a bunch of executives. Then finally another picture of me reading a news article talking about my company. I was giving an interview and they were asking “How did a mom get involved in the industry–how did you do it?” And I answered, “I met someone who inspired me to dream again. A CEO who showed me how to juggle a house of cards….I dedicate this to him.”

With that picture in my mind, I burst into tears thinking that in time, you and I will be referred to in the past tense. I never want to lose your friendship and tried to ask you how our interactions would be going forward. Likely this may happen over time. But right now, I can’t let go of someone whose friendship meant the most to me of all.

I care about you…always will. And CEO–you may not feel that you are a great person. But I felt it with you. And I know you are. I still believe in you. Everything with you was magical and that is how I will remember us.

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I remember being in so much pain when I wrote those words. Thinking of not hearing from CEO every day ripped my heart out of my chest. Our lives had become so intertwined, both of us were a source of encouragement to the other. Whether he was having a bad day because an investor pulled out, or if I was struggling with the work I was handling–we always reached out. Losing his friendship was the death kneel, but I knew No Contact would be for life. It killed me to think I would never see his smile again. Never hear his laugh. Never share our fantasy world again.

But…over a year later, I can say that the pain diminished enough to function.  It waxed and waned over those first few months but the overall trajectory was there.  Two years after Dday, you are solidly looking forward and living your life, without the constant feeling of missing their presence.  It may not feel that way in the beginning (the first three months of No Contact are brutal) but you do get through it.   Make no mistakes, you carry the memories of them wherever you go, but they’ve been relegated to a filing cabinet that rarely gets unlocked.  The mental pictures you had swirling around in your head for so long, become fuzzy.  You don’t see their face with clarity and definition any longer.  It’s like they become a photo or snippet of a movie, when memories pop up.  And you are seeing it from afar.

I believe in order to move forward in your life, at some point you stop looking back so much.  You just do-instinctually.  You begin to live more in the present and little by little, you dust yourself off and rebuild your life.  One day at a time.

In the beginning, it’s an accomplishment to not burst into tears every time you drive or hear a song on the radio.  Or maybe just being present long enough to say, “I’m good, thanks” when a grocery clerk asks how you are.  A few moments suddenly becomes a few hours, and then it grows to a whole morning that you didn’t think about “them”.  As time moves forward, eventually days fly by.  And one day, maybe a whole year later, you get an entire week or two as a reprieve for your hard work.  That’s pretty much the first year after Dday in a nutshell, my friends.

Truthfully though, you won’t ever forget your affair partner. The good memories or bad ones–they are in that memory bank for life I’m afraid.  But you do heal.  You do.  In time.

I’m proof of it Madeline.

 

 

 

 

 

Vertigo

That’s it.  I’m officially dumping my doctor.  This is the 3rd time she has given me an incorrect diagnosis.  What is it with general medicine physicians?  It must be where all the reject doctors land.  Anyone with a proper skill set would naturally be specialized.  Only in medicine can you do your “job”, be completely inept and still get paid.  Try that in any other field and you wouldn’t get far.

Sigh…I digress.

So today, my symptoms are worse.  I’ve spent the entire day battling vertigo and laying in bed, much to my kids disappointment.  I finally called an ENT I saw a few years ago and basically got myself a same day appointment.

I explained my entire story- where I had been- when I flew home- the migraines and now my ear issue.  The doctor said, “I think I know what this is.  But first let me check your good ear.”

She compared the two and said I had a severely inflamed Eustachian tube which caused it to dysfunction.  I haven’t had any allergies or fever, so she thinks I either got a virus from all the mosquito bites or perhaps I picked up something in the water while snorkeling.  Now add in my recent air travel and the changes in cabin pressure and viola!  I now have a retracted ear drum.

Basically your Eustachian tube controls the pressure.  But it was so inflamed, it literally “sucked” my ear drum inward.  Hence my off-the-charts vertigo.

I’ve been prescribed steroids which I can’t take till tomorrow morning.  They make you jittery and impact sleep if taken too late in the day.  So one more torturous night, then I can start the meds.

I’m not going cray cray (at least not yet).  But my head is spinning and my brain keeps getting mixed signals regarding spatially where I am.  I can handle many things, but vertigo isn’t one of them.

I asked how long till I feel relief.  And the doctor said, “Oh you will know.  You’ll hear a huge pop and you’ll have an ‘A-Ha moment’.  Only then can the fluid drain.  Amazing just important our inner ears are, huh?”

I told her the meds my GP prescribed and she shook her head going, “Tsk, Tsk–yeah that medicine is harsh.  It knocks you out and totally messes with you.”  I wanted to say, “No shit!  I was comatose after taking 1 pill.  Never again will I touch that stuff.”

So that’s the latest.  Let’s hope this puts me back on the road to good health.  I miss running everyday.  I miss feeling normal.  I miss being fully present for my kids.  And I miss sex and having our weekly date nights!

Paradise

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Well we finally arrived after two flights and a long layover in between.  The kids took it in stride and even walked themselves through immigration.  I feared they would be asleep and we would be carrying them ourselves, since that is when they are normally sleeping.  But it worked out perfectly.

As we came out of the airport, someone was there to greet us with the car we had rented.  No waiting in lines- wow, I could get use to this.  As my husband placed our suitcases into the back of the car, he jammed his suitcase against him.  His right hand caught a piece of metal which was at one time, part of a side carry handle.  I looked at his face, then saw the blood, and he said, “I think I cut my finger down to the bone.”

The woman took him to a nurse who works in the airport.  We sat next to our rental car saying prayers for Daddy to be ok.  And for this to please, not inhibit the fun he has looked so forward to.  My heart sunk knowing all the water activities we had dreamed of doing while here.  Fifteen long minutes passed when Daddy suddenly appeared saying, “It’s not to the bone-just a deep cut.”  Phew…a huge sigh of relief came flooding out.

We drove about an hour through villages and such, till we finally reached a stone sign.  As we drove down a twisting road (think Lombard Street in San Francisco meets the jungle), we suddenly broke out in the giddiest of grins.

You park your vehicle and then the resort ferries you further down the ravine in little tuk-tuks reminiscent of the ones in Thailand, only much nicer.  As the driver turned the last corner, there stood our own private butler- local drinks in hand literally welcoming us to paradise.

He brought us into our room- and it was stunning.  Views of these majestic mountains coupled with white plantation shutters…four poster bed covered in a white mosquito net.

I’m a visual person so this place is a feast for your eyes and for anyone who loves architecture.  I still can’t believe we are here…in such paradise enjoying our marriage and family after so much destruction.  I feel grateful beyond words that my husband didn’t give up on us, that we have finally rebuilt a solid marriage where honesty reigns (despite how difficult that has been) and that we haven’t allowed our past to destroy our family.

I never thought being 2 years past Dday could feel so great…but it does.  We are making new memories and CEO feels so far behind us now.  This is proof that all those articles you read after Dday are true: some couples rebuild their marriages into stronger, more resilient ones.  I am very grateful to say, we are one of them ❤️🌴☀️